“Those who plead their cause in the absence of an opponent can invent to their heart's content, can pontificate without taking into account the opposite point of view and keep the best arguments for themselves, for aggressors are always quick to attack those who have no means of defense.”
Let me start off by listing everything I feel that is unfair to me out of compulsion at the moment:
1) Working to pay college tuition along with rent while some people have parents paying it for them.
2) Working extremely hard to study for an exam despite the lack of time, and someone cheats directly off of you. Or cheating in general. When you cheat, you're not only dishonest, you are admitting to your own failure.
3) Burden of being the one everyone looks at, being the one in my family that is compared to prodigies of the world and questioned about why I can't be as "smart" as them.
4) Not having professional connections through family.
5) Being judge as a bum because I can not afford clothes. In fact, I haven't brought a single garment since 2013.
6) Riding public transport everyday as I listen to people complaining about driving somewhere that would otherwise take me triple the time to get to.
7) Oh, you don't want to go to X because from Y to X is very far? I've walked miles upon miles on nothing but my empty stomach and broken shoes.
8) I'm sorry that the food you ate was terrible, would you like to try a chemical infused sandwich for 50 cents because that's all I can afford.
9) In the end, I am unfair to everyone else.
Everything above is not only depression feeding, but an unproductive mindset. We try to make life work like a math equation where >, and < signs are bad and everything should equal everything else. But, we fail to understand that nature itself is never perfect. Something as complicated as life can't simply be the sum of numbers. I often complain to my friends for hours about how unfair everything is, and how I wish I was borne differently. Perhaps into a very rich household where my parents were CEO's, doctors, lawyers, you name it, and college tuition was like pocket change. That's delusional. The more we want in life, the more unhappy one is. So many people are craving for change, but the number of people listing their troubles greatly outnumber the ones who create solutions....And here is the point where I trail off because I forgot what the main topic of this blog was. Oh right, unfairness and how we should look further than what's directly front of us.
I realize I can't spend the rest of eternity moping over how unfair life is. This is something I can change if I put in enough effort. People who I feel unfair compared to, didn't choose to have more than I have. In fact, I am far more privileged than many people are. I can stress about work and getting good grades in college, but there are people who have to live with the uncertainty that they might not wake up to see the sunrise tomorrow. I am thankful for being alive and healthy, and thankful that I don't have to live with the fears that I might not live another day. Privilege gets thrown around far too often. I can't deny that there are people who out privilege others, and I can't say that you just have to try harder if you think life is unfair. However, I can suggest that we stop equating our own lives to those of others and live ourselves. Stop weighing your life against that of another because only heartbreak will come when we realize the scale will always tip one way. We can focus on bettering ourselves, and absorb what the world we live in now has to offer.
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